Ok ladies I am 40 and starting to go into premature menopause, no big deal.?

my mother was 34 and had no symptoms. The only ones I have been getting is more depression, and more anxious. My hormones on my blood tests show that all of my hormones are out of the normal range and it shows I am starting to go through life changes now. o well. what I want to know is if you know of anyone going though it because I need to know if depression is part of this? I have found myself over the last few days crying and not wanting to leave my house and feeling isolated. even though I am on anti depressants I find them not working like they used to. so is this normal as you approach menopause? I would miss 4 months without a period like this year and then only to find I have like 2-3 drops of blood in the toilet not requiring to wear any pads. They started to become irregular in 2006. I will be almost 41 soon. ok so is depression all part of this? I had the hot flushed early this year but that was only for a short time and now I do not have it now as my mother never did either when she stopped hers at 34. so like I asked can depression be part of this?